Do you fight with your friends allot??
Did you loose any of them because of it??
Fighting with besties do get our mood off, and i have seen people who cry and repent when the fight goes to extremes and they are't friends anymore
In this post i just want to tell 3 stories about 3 different friends of mine, each holding a different case, wherein even i lost a friend in one case,but keeping that as a lesson i never again lost friend, but yea i did get depressed when i had fight with one of my best friends, but i could figure out a way to solve it ASAP before it goes to extremes
A common reason that gap arises between two best friends is that their priorities change with time, what we feel is that we are the same as before, he/she has changed so its their fault and not mine.This situation of change in priorities occur when the other one gets into a "Relation", yes i know that most of you had this experience that you have a close friend and he/she gets into a relation and we feel that a gap has arise between your friendship.My first story is a similar kind
I have a friend,and he is one among of the two best friends of i have met in my life till now, we met in our grad school, and became thick friends instantly,to say clearly "i love him allot, so does he", after two years of our friendship, he fell in love and started being in a relation with one of our classmate, she is also a sweet girl, but later in few days the talkings between me and my friend drastically came down, this is the point where everyone start blaming about the "Gap", but i could see the context from other side, there is no doubt that i love him allot, but what i could see is that the love of that girl towards my friend was far beyond mine, her care and affection towards him, has just made like her too, in short i started liking her because "she loved my best friend more than i do". I could see her love towards him in her eyes,i was literally happy for him and started calling him the "lucky one", and today i call that girl as "chellemma" (sister), and she calls me "annaya" (bro) and we share the utmost love as brother and sister for each other, in fact i dont have any sisters of my own, so i just got a gift - the sweetest sis from the god or time whateva we believe in, the point here is our way to view things, if i would have seen the situation from a negative end on that day, then i would have lost my friend, because i have't done that mistake today i have my friend that too with lot thicker love than before and also a additional gift "my sweet sis".Thats it guys, its all about how you see the situation, never go for a fight thinking in one way, that you are correct, just wait and think for a while, who knows your thought can give a sweet surprise gift like i have recieved.
With the second story i am gonna take you to my school days, where i had a friend called sami, we were so close friends that rest of my class mates used to get jealous of our friendship, and fortunately we attended the same college to puruse our 11th and 12th. But one bad day, we had a fight, and we just stopped talking to each other, i was waiting for him to talk first, and so does he. we finished our 12th and left the college to attend our grad school, i was missing him there, i knew internally that i should have spoke to him but outside i did't express it, one day we met again at the annual day function of our school, this time i did't stop i went and tried speaking to him, he was stubborn, first he did't listen but later everything was set, we spoke but the funniest thing is that both of us dont remember why we fought, it was so silly reason that we literally forgot, i could't recall it even today, but it just made us stay away for 3 long years and even after that, things were't same as they were before, that gap still went on, today we both don't share that feel anymore that initially we used have due to various reasons.What so ever has happened, but i lost a friend because of a reason that i don't even remember, "so guys if you care for a relation then be ready to apologize, because that fight is not as valuable as your friendship."and don't repeat the mistake that i have done before, keeping this in mind i just made a small video, watch it if have time for it
The third story is again about friend in my grad school, she also holds a special place in the pages that are dedicated to my friends in my lifespan, i dind't know it before and i used to fight a lot with her, so much that in a week or so, we used to fight atleast thrice, but our fights does't lasts long, either me or she will surely talk first, i knew it, but when we fight, both of us suffer with a bad mood and would get irritated, i was wondering why is this all happening for no reason or advantage, but recently one day, when we were on talk she just told me that i was the one who could see all variations of her mood, anger ,pain and love. she is a bit reserve and does't let emotions on anyone so easily, but once she said it, i realized that i was special for her, and also she for me. if there were no fights between us, we would't have become what we are today, as i wrote in the video, fights must be a sweet memory for tomorrow, we both share so many memories today, all we did is just broke the ego when we fought and spoke because we cared our friendship more
I dont say that fights are necessary i do a have friend called raaj, who is the other one among two best friends of my life, and in 5 years of our journey we had't fight atleast once even though we share a best place for each other in our hearts
So thats it guys, just wait before you claim to fight with friend, may be its not a good reason, and if you do, just go and talk to him/her once the scene has clam down, if you do't one day after many years you'll surely miss that relation and at that time you cannot get it back, and Dont bother about egos in front of your friends guys, they doesnt last long , so if you have faced a similar situation like mine, or if you may face it in future just keep this in mind guys, do't let fights ruin your friendship and happiness in life, because all we need to do in life is Be good-Stay happy
Note : Most of you might feel that the solutions that i give are general and small, that's what life is, we hold a illusion that makes us believe that the smallest problem of ours as the biggest one, i am not here to make things complicated by teaching you about the consciousness, meditation etc, i myself do't know about them completely, i am here just to share my experiences to them who might find it usefull, i am not teaching, i am just sharing. So if you like any of them, just adopt, and stay happy. :)
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